Are you a guy who is hoping to lose your virginity? Before you rush into it, there are a lot of details that movies and pornography do not tell you about losing your virginity. Sex is often portrayed as a erotic act that is easy, long, and ridiculously simple. People are said to be good if the sex involves crazy moves or endless thrusts. Unfortunately, most of the ideas that a virgin may have about sexual intercourse are usually wrong.
The first thing to know is that sex is sloppy and not completely obvious. For example, when you put condoms on, you may experience frustration trying to get it up or keep it up. You may have trouble getting it inside your girl or you may notice yourself tiring earlier than you think. During sex, you may find yourself doing jerking thrusts that actually dont feel good for her. Your first time sex may not last long. Also, neither of you may orgasm. Plus you are dealing with a ton of fluids that can get messy, especially if she is a virgin or on her period. Its not unusual to see blood, especially if her hymen has not been broken yet (as is the case with many virgins).
That said, a lot of men put too much pressure on their sexual performance or on their sexual behavior. Instead, if you are having sex for the first time, you want to do a lot of things to lessen the pressure. First of all, realize that most moves in pornography do not work. Most women prefer it simple, as most of the complex moves dont do much. You only need to learn a few key positions and work from there. In addition, dont feel like sex is made up of a bunch of thrusts. Sometimes you want to try slow deep motions. Sometimes you want to return to foreplay. in fact, the most important part is how you make her feel (i.e. are you dominant, sensual, do you give her dirty talk etc) Finally, do not panic if things go wrong. If you have trouble getting it in, try to moisten her vagina or your condom with saliva. If you can’t get it up, just go down on her or try and pleasure her (also reconsider your condom brand). Dont panic if you run out of ideas or if sex may not last long. You can prolong the experience for her by transition into foreplay, while you allow yourself to rest.
Finally realize that, even for experienced people, the first time with any girl is going to be a work in progress that improves as you get to know each other’s body. So treat your first time as a learning experience. Ultimately, the best thing you can do is find a consistent partner and realize that sex gets better with time.